Teen Savvy Coaching
Helping teens and the adults who care for them to thrive
When you think about play, do you picture a bunch of kids running around, laughing, and making a mess? Maybe a game of tag, a pile of Legos, or an intense round of hide-and-seek? What if I told you that you need play just as much as your kids, especially as a busy, overworked, slightly …
In today’s world, food and body image are more complicated than ever. Between social media, celebrity diets, and the latest wellness trends, teens are bombarded with mixed messages about food and health. How can parents help their kids develop a positive relationship with eating—without falling into the traps of diet culture? On the latest episode …
Remember when “going steady” was a thing? Today’s teens use phrases like “talking,” “situationships,” and “soft-launching” their relationships. When it comes to teen love and healthy teen relationships, if you feel like you need a translator, you’re not alone! On the latest episode of Parenting Shrink Wrapped, Dr. Melissa Wellner and I explore the ins …
Understanding Child and Adolescent Anxiety: When to Worry Anxiety is on the rise among kids and teens, and as parents, it can be tough to know when to step in. While some anxiety is a normal and even healthy response to life’s challenges, excessive or impairing anxiety is a different story. In the latest episode …
I’d like to introduce a key parenting strategy to connect with your teen. I teach this to all of my coaching clients: “Join before you shift.” When it comes to raising teens, so many of our conversations are what I call “change conversations.” These are the moments when we’re asking our teens to make a …
I went to see Inside Out 2 with my soon-to-be-18-year-old daughter on opening night, and I’m so glad I did. As someone who swims in the waters of all things teen, I’ve been looking forward to the release of this film since I learned it was in creation. If you’re familiar with the original Inside …
The other night my husband and I were reminiscing about our college days, which is when we met. (That I was just a few months older than my youngest is now when I met the guy I’d eventually marry is a tad mind-blowing to me. I mean–I felt so much OLDER than my daughter feels …
Is Love in the Air? It’s the month of Valentine’s Day. Maybe love is in the air for your teen? (And maybe not–both scenarios are totally normal for the age group.) Whether your teen is managing a romantic relationship of their own or is a bystander to the relationship of one of their peers, it’s …
New year’s Eve Negotiations With New Year’s Eve on the horizon, it’s possible your teen parties will also be on the horizon. What if your teen asks to go to a party and you don’t know the host or the host’s family? First of all, it’s totally up to you as to whether you want …
Back to school time means a return to routines, structures, and academic pursuits. And, for many families, this time of year also means a ramp up in extracurriculars, now often referred to as “co-curriculars” in many school settings. Why “co” instead of “extra”? Schools realize that these activities play a vital role in shaping your …
The Human Brain is Wired for Comparison We humans are wired to compare ourselves to others. Evolutionarily speaking, this tendency is adaptive. Eons ago, those who could size up tribal expectations and then adapt their performance to fit into the tribe’s norms were more likely to be accepted, and, by extension, taken care of. And–with …
A couple weeks ago, I sent out the link to the first video I’d made as part of my FREE summer parenting tips series. In case you didn’t get a chance to watch that, I’ve got valuable insights to share from that clip that I hope will have you thinking, “Okay, yeah. This totally happens …
Could Cold Showers be the Secret to Better Parenting? For the last 90 seconds of my morning shower, I turn the hot water all the way off, and pretty much just gasp while icy water hits my skin. I’ve been engaging in this nonsense for nearly a year, after listening to a podcast on the …
Parenting can be a real bear sometimes. When it comes to navigating rough patches, studies show that some parental responses are more effective than others. Experts have determined three different parenting approaches: authoritarian, permissive, and authoritative, and have studied the effects each approach has on kids’ resilience and on the parent-child relationship. What Goldilocks and …
I have a confession to make. I dropped my kid at college, and I’m pretty stinkin’ happy about it. Last week, I dropped my oldest off at college. In the days leading up to the drop-off and throughout the day-of, friends kept checking in with me to ask how I was holding up. Sending my …
September is almost here, bringing with it the promise of a new beginning in the form a new school year. But with new beginnings also come transitions. And with transitions, even happy ones, stress is usually lurking nearby. It’s a lot to balance as students adjust to earlier schedules, increased demands on their time, and …
by Samantha Straub When your child has a setback, remember that, often, parents need support, too! It hurts to watch your kid struggle. When they are treated poorly by others, feel misunderstood, get left out, don’t make the team, aren’t admitted, or experience most any sort of set back, it’s not just the kid that …
by Samantha Straub Parents often worry that the poor teen behavior we see at home is the same stuff our kids show the world when we’re not around. Generally, however, that’s not the case. They save their ugly for home. On the road (i.e. at school, at friends’ houses, on their teams, at their jobs, …
By Samantha Straub A mom of a totally likeable, down-to-Earth kid calls the school counseling office, worried. “My daughter’s friends seem to be ditching her,” the mom tells me. “She sees photos on Snapchat and Instagram of their parties, but she’s not invited to any of them. I don’t know whether to be mad at …
